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08.24.23 | Sage Advice

Forgiving Oneself and Others

Forgiveness is a cornerstone of one’s personal growth journey, and its importance can’t be overstated. At the very core, forgiving yourself starts as a choice, a conscious decision to release the weight of past regrets and to make peace with your actions and decisions, and with that choice comes the foundational elements of empathy, understanding, compassion, and kindness.

Empathy plays a crucial role in this journey. By putting oneself in another’s shoes, we not only gain perspective but also allow for healing to commence. It helps us to see beyond our narrow viewpoint and understand the broader picture. It reminds us that everyone, including ourselves, is fighting a battle that we may know nothing about.

Alongside empathy, understanding is pivotal. This means recognizing our mistakes, learning from them, and accepting that everyone has their journey filled with both ups and downs. Acceptance doesn’t mean we forget or condone mistakes, but rather that we recognize them as part of our growth.

When we look at our past with love and understanding, rather than judgment, we begin to heal. And once we show compassion towards others, even when it feels undeserved, we often find that we’re lightening our own burdens. It’s a mutual process of healing – for ourselves and for others.

Kindness is the thread that stitches together the fabric of forgiveness. It could be in small, daily acts or larger gestures. Whether it’s being gentle with oneself on a tough day or showing kindness to someone who might not have treated us well, these actions have a ripple effect. Kindness not only fosters an environment where forgiveness can thrive but also nurtures our own soul.

Despite understanding these foundational elements, we must remember that the act of forgiveness is fundamentally a choice. It’s a decision we make, transitioning from denial or resentment to a state of acceptance. This choice isn’t always easy; barriers often stand in our way. Yet, with determination, these barriers can be overcome.

Even after choosing forgiveness, the journey isn’t over. It’s essential to realize that forgiveness isn’t a one-time act or a destination but an ongoing process. Making peace with past mistakes, allowing ourselves the grace to move forward, and embracing the future with resilience are all parts of this continuous journey.

While the path of forgiving oneself and others can be strewn with challenges, it is a necessary step towards achieving inner peace and profound personal growth for your own Vibrant Living. So, as you move forward, reflect upon your journey, choose forgiveness, and embrace the healing that it brings!

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11.04.21 | Sage Advice

Practicing Empathy: How it Can Create a More Vibrant World

Empathy is a universal tool for understanding. By definition, it’s a way of emotionally recognizing and validating what someone else is feeling. At Sage Collective, we approach all of our work with empathy, and believe that with practice, exhibiting empathy improves communication, heightens creativity and enhances appreciation.

What the Science Says

Empathy has always been an essential skill for communication and understanding. However, it’s more important now than ever, in light of the enormous levels of stress many confront today. Displaying empathy serves as an antidote for burnout and anxiety — producing beneficial effects on wellbeing and supporting positive social interactions for individuals and groups alike.

According to a recent study published by the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, empathy in older adults may play a sizable role in shaping the regularity and types of support they exchange within social networks and the ramifications associated with the exchanges. The study concludes that empathetic older adults grant emotional and instrumental support more often than older adults who display less empathy. Furthermore, those who are more empathetic enjoy greater levels of emotional comfort from their networks and uphold more positive moods throughout the day, producing significant exchanges of care and more powerful controls over temperament. 

Practicing Empathy

Because empathy is a crucial element for collective support, everyone can benefit from improving their skills, whether practicing empathy comes naturally or must be learned. However, with time, an empathetic approach to all situations becomes instinctive. Here are three kinds of empathy that a person may encounter and should strive to understand:

Cognitive empathy consists of putting yourself in someone else’s situation to try and
comprehend what they might be going through at that moment. Even if it involves
something unfamiliar, the effort of understanding can transform anyone’s perspective. 

Somatic empathy requires the ability to experience someone else’s feelings. It usually
includes physical reactions to situations like feeling sick, sweating or blushing.

Active listening is a large part of being empathetic, but taking action and giving appropriate feedback takes the skill a step further. Affective empathy entails understanding the emotion someone else is feeling and answering accordingly. The awareness establishes personal connections and leads to a more profound concern for others’ feelings. 

As more and more people recognize the power of using empathetic techniques, a mutual understanding and compassion will blossom, empowering our communities to become more vibrant and rich in emotional support.

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